I can always spot the difference between the couples who’ve been together for several years and the ones who are maybe a year or two in, at most. What you don’t often see is the fire and passion of a new relationship in an old one, mixed in with that extreme comfort of having known someone for what feels like a lifetime. Jordan and Julia definitely still have that intense passion and love for each other yet are so natural and carefree and open. It’s the kind of connection that inspires hope for lasting love, and a lasting marriage – At least for me.
It goes without saying that I absolutely adored shooting their wedding, and that’s because I knew that this event was something supplemental, not the reason they were together. I find a lot of couples lose site of each other and confuse “the big day” for the thing that defines their relationship. The wedding should be something that compliments this great thing you already have. It’s not a show for your guests. It’s not the day that makes or breaks your relationship. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve witnessed this. I’m sure many of you wedding photographers out there can relate.
I first met Jordan and Julia for an engagement session earlier in the summer. Jordan showed up in a red baseball cap and shorts. Julia was also casually dressed, and I thought “I’m going to like these people.” Right off the bat I could tell they were doing this for them. Julia even said ‘I told him to wear whatever he wants, I want him to be comfortable.’ About half an hour in it started to rain and I got a little worried. Sometimes the rain is just too hard to work with, no matter how easy going you are, but both Jordan and Julia laughed it off and we kept on shooting. It was one of those weird weather days where the sky is half black, it pours for five minutes, then you’re sprinkled with sun showers and everything’s fine and dandy again. Very difficult to shoot in but I still love it so much. You get a bit of everything.
I’d definitely recommend having an engagement session with your photographer before the wedding day, or maybe even before you book that photographer for your wedding day. It’s like a test print. Before you print something large, you want to make sure that the colors and exposure are everything you expect them to be. The same goes for your wedding photographer. You want to make sure they’re what you want before you invest in them. It’s so beneficial for so many reasons, like getting to know their style of shooting, feeling more comfortable for the wedding day, and just knowing that person that much more. After all, you are going to be spending the majority of the day with this person so you better like them!
On to the wedding day…
We started and ended the day at my all time favourite venue, South Pond Farms. I can’t sing their praises enough. The food is always delicious, like a home cooked meal, and the interior styling always perfectly imperfect, with its unique plates and teacups and wooden chairs. I’ve yet to shoot a wedding that was rained out or overcast, but I almost wish I had. I’ve seen images from other photographers who’ve shot in overcast weather and it’s a totally different feel. Very moody and somber, I love it! South Ponds really can do no wrong.
The day was filled with so much laughter. I went home with a belly-ache and a sore jaw from laughing and smiling too much. I’ve never heard such funny speeches and such heart felt ones. This for sure ranks as one of the best weddings I’ve been to. I hope to photograph many more like this in the years to come.